{"id":288790,"date":"2024-01-08T10:47:47","date_gmt":"2024-01-08T09:47:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/9-tips-for-a-successful-relationship-guide-complet\/"},"modified":"2024-05-29T16:10:56","modified_gmt":"2024-05-29T15:10:56","slug":"couple-life","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/couple-life\/","title":{"rendered":"9 tips for a successful relationship  [guide complet]"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"288790\" class=\"elementor elementor-288790 elementor-221587\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d2f6ffe elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d2f6ffe\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5617727\" data-id=\"5617727\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fdc1ca3 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"fdc1ca3\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b4f95a6\" data-id=\"b4f95a6\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ade33bc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ade33bc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"titre_article\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Life as a couple: our 9 practical tips for success\n\n<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc40478 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dc40478\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">[guide complet]<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d99009 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3d99009\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Making a success of your married life<\/strong>: a vast subject&#8230;\nWhile we emerge from school with a good command (more or less) of the Pythagorean theorem and spelling, nowhere are we taught how to take care of our relationship as a couple.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6c07051 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6c07051\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tAnd yet! Learning how to be happy as a couple would probably contribute far more effectively to our happiness than being top of the class in chemistry.\nIndeed, according to numerous studies, there&#8217;s a close relationship between individual happiness levels and having a fulfilling <a href=\"#reference\" class=\"lien_html\"> relationship*<\/a>.\nIt seems logical: we are relational beings, and the conjugal relationship is the central relationship in our lives. Our partner is the person with whom we spend most of our time, with whom we build a life together&#8230;\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e5eb1b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3e5eb1b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tAnd when it comes to relationships, we believe there are two little-known facts:\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 To love is an action verb<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\"><strong>\ud83d\udc49 Loving and relating<\/strong> can be learned through many different skills.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3eedb3f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3eedb3f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\u26a0\ufe0f <u>Spoiler alert:<\/u> since the foundation of all these skills is communication, we&#8217;ve dedicated an entire article to you on <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/couple-communication\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">communication in couples<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9fed54f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9fed54f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In this comprehensive guide, you&#8217;ll find all our <strong>advice on how to make your relationship a success<\/strong>, with <strong>concrete examples<\/strong> and <strong>actionable tips<\/strong> to get you on the road to the relationship of your dreams.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4e2a06b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4e2a06b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWe&#8217;ll help you answer the following questions: What are the most important things in a relationship? How can we develop them?  <strong>What makes a couple strong?<\/strong><br>\nIn a nutshell: how to make a success of your relationship?\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dbd4e71 elementor-toc--minimized-on-tablet elementor-widget elementor-widget-table-of-contents\" data-id=\"dbd4e71\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;headings_by_tags&quot;:[&quot;h2&quot;],&quot;exclude_headings_by_selector&quot;:[],&quot;marker_view&quot;:&quot;bullets&quot;,&quot;icon&quot;:{&quot;value&quot;:&quot;fas fa-chevron-circle-right&quot;,&quot;library&quot;:&quot;fa-solid&quot;},&quot;no_headings_message&quot;:&quot;No headings were found on this page.&quot;,&quot;minimize_box&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;minimized_on&quot;:&quot;tablet&quot;,&quot;hierarchical_view&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;min_height&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_laptop&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]}}\" data-widget_type=\"table-of-contents.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__header\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-toc__header-title\">\n\t\t\t\tTable of contents\t\t\t<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--expand\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__dbd4e71\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Open table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-list-ul\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--collapse\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__dbd4e71\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Close table of contents\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"fas fa-chevron-up\"><\/i><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-toc__dbd4e71\" class=\"elementor-toc__body\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__spinner-container\">\n\t\t\t\t<i class=\"elementor-toc__spinner eicon-animation-spin eicon-loading\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bb5636b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"bb5636b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-1\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1 - Tip number 1: Build a solid foundation for a successful relationship<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f5b63f2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f5b63f2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tHow to build a house? Building on a solid foundation (long before you choose wallpaper or windows).\nIt&#8217;s the same for a couple: you can&#8217;t hope to live happily together through the years without laying <strong>solid foundations for your union<\/strong>.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-30a98cf elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"30a98cf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Every couple is different, and therefore has its own recipe, its own culture<\/strong>: that&#8217;s what makes a couple wonderful.<br>\nWe believe that a couple&#8217;s culture is based on at least <strong>3 pillars<\/strong>: your shared history, your shared values, and the rituals you create together.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2c835d1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2c835d1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">A shared history as the foundation of your relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6421c94 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6421c94\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In love story, there&#8217;s the word &#8220;story&#8221;, and it&#8217;s very important. A solid relationship is one that&#8217;s <strong>aware of, and grateful for, the ground we&#8217;ve already covered together<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0387c16 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0387c16\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<em>How was your first date? What was it like when you met your respective families? Your first &#8220;I love you&#8221;?&#8230;<\/em><br>\nWho cares? No, of course not&#8230; But the point we&#8217;re trying to make here is that, <strong>even more than the facts themselves, it&#8217;s how you tell them that counts!<\/strong>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d896d3f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d896d3f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>According to a study by renowned American couples therapist Dr. Gottman, the <strong>success or failure of a marriage<\/strong> can be <strong>predicted with 94% accuracy based on the way the couple in question tells their story<\/strong> \/ tells themselves as a couple.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7e01ee5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7e01ee5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u><strong>While happy, solid couples :<\/strong><\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 Highlight the good times they&#8217;ve had together<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 Highlight seminal moments such as how they met, got married&#8230; and even their first conflict (often romanticized a little&#8230;).<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 Easily use &#8220;we&#8221;.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 Talk about the challenges they&#8217;ve experienced, being proud to have gone through them and aware that they&#8217;ve made them grow. Or with a sense of humor!<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 Have lots of anecdotes they love to tell.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b7e00c2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b7e00c2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u><strong>The most fragile :<\/strong>\n<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u274c Trivialize the good times they&#8217;ve had together, as well as their founding moments like meeting, marriage&#8230;.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u274c Emphasize the difficult times they&#8217;ve been through, and talk about them with resentment, often contrasting &#8220;I&#8221; with &#8220;you&#8221;.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb89f37 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cb89f37\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Your story isn&#8217;t just a collection of facts: <strong>what counts is the meaning you give them in your narrative!<\/strong><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8cc7163 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8cc7163\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<em>For example, by choosing :\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li>Which events to highlight<\/li>\n \t<li>The vocabulary used to describe them<\/li>\n<\/ul><\/em>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-325762b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"325762b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSo think about that the next time you&#8217;re asked to tell an anecdote about your relationship \ud83d\ude09.<br>\nPay attention to how you answer, and readjust if necessary!\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1817252 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1817252\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Common values and a vision shared by the couple<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fb41d19 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fb41d19\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tAnother key ingredient for every couple is the set of values they share. You don&#8217;t have to share 100% of your values with your lover, but having a common base is a good start.<br>\nBut what does this really mean, and is it crucial to have the same values for a happy relationship?\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02aac15 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"02aac15\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIn short, values are the filter through which we shape our lives. They represent our fundamental principles, our deepest beliefs.<br>\nThey can be inherited or chosen. The former come from our family and societal environment, the latter are consciously selected.  \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59093e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"59093e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Values are the driving force behind our actions, influencing our choices and relationships.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-68f8d40 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"68f8d40\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt&#8217;s worth looking inward to define <strong>these values, on three levels: individual values, general shared values and values specific to married life<\/strong>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59d8062 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"59d8062\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1) Individual values<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-af00f7a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"af00f7a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBefore defining your values as a couple, it&#8217;s essential to be clear about your individual values.<br>\nWhat drives you as a person, guides your actions&#8230;?\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-575c94b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"575c94b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We&#8217;ll help you define them in the article we&#8217;ve dedicated to <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/values-in-a-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\">values in relationships<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c3756a5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c3756a5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2) Shared values<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-082ccaa elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"082ccaa\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThese are general values that you both hold dear.\nTo define these common life values, re-examine the individual values defined earlier, and identify :\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n \t<li>those you share<\/li>\n \t<li>those that differ.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dcfdea6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dcfdea6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOn the face of it, we often go for people who are similar to us: so it&#8217;s a safe bet that <strong>you share many of the same values<\/strong> with your life partner.\nThese shared values will serve as a <strong>compass when you have decisions to make together<\/strong>.<br>\n<em>For example, if work is a strong value you share, this will guide your choice to prioritize your respective professional lives, probably to the detriment of other aspects of your lives.<\/em>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2767dbb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2767dbb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOn the other hand, it&#8217;s normal for <strong>some to differ<\/strong>: you&#8217;re two distinct human beings, and that&#8217;s what makes your relationship so rich.<br>\nOn this point, it&#8217;s important to really work on acceptance, rather than trying to change the other person.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-da5b55f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"da5b55f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">3) Values specific to married life<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-321efd9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"321efd9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFinally, there are values that are <strong>specific to the couple&#8217;s relationship itself<\/strong>: these are the values that, in your opinion, make a relationship a solid one.<br>\nThese values generally include <strong>trust, security, complicity and loyalty<\/strong>&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54a62fb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"54a62fb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>To define them, ask yourself: what do you think are <strong>the essential ingredients of a good love relationship<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3456a91 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3456a91\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tHaving them defined is a real asset to your relationship.  <u>You can check in regularly to :<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Look with gratitude at the way you cultivate some of them<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Lucidly notice those who are dear to you but who don&#8217;t currently have the place they deserve in your relationship. And <strong>set up actions to bring them back to life<\/strong>.\n<em>For example, if togetherness is an important value for you as a couple but seems to have taken a back seat, why not organize a fun, new activity together to stimulate this value?<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f989709 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f989709\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>These values, and the vision that stems from them, will be a compass for your life together!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1e010dd elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1e010dd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"641\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-orientation-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288583\" alt=\"couple-direction\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-orientation-jpg.webp 641w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-orientation-300x161.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-orientation-50x27.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 641px) 100vw, 641px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3c8e2ec elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3c8e2ec\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Shared rituals<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-04f3e98 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"04f3e98\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tCouples&#8217; rituals are those <strong>little habits that, far from being mechanically repeated, have real meaning for lovers<\/strong>.<br>\nJust like your shared values or your history, they are part of your identity, your little recipe for love, and help to &#8220;sacralize&#8221; your relationship.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1d9db4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a1d9db4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>According to Jean-Claude Kaufmann, <em>&#8220;ritual is basically a routine, but one that is experienced as carrying meaning. Everything can be lived as a ritual, it&#8217;s a moment of construction, of more intense life.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e0b3b0d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e0b3b0d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>They will help you <strong>stay connected to your partner<\/strong>, and are a <strong>reassuring anchor<\/strong> in the most difficult of times.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-66ba086 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"66ba086\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThese rituals can be <strong>more or less important<\/strong>, and take different forms: mini-rituals for when you leave each other in the morning or meet up again in the evening, ways of celebrating life&#8217;s small or big events, comforting rituals when one of you is ill&#8230;<br>\n<em>Here are <strong>a few examples<\/strong>: systematically having coffee together before leaving for work, ordering a good meal on Sunday evenings, going away for the weekend for wedding anniversaries, taking a phone-free walk on Saturday mornings wherever you are&#8230;<\/em>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9b1e369 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9b1e369\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Cherish these rituals &#8211; they&#8217;re sacred! And, of course, there&#8217;s nothing to stop you creating new ones&#8230;<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59acf47 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"59acf47\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise to build a solid foundation for your relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7af6873 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7af6873\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ec48365 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ec48365\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83d\udca1 To do this, we suggest a <strong>little game for lovers<\/strong>:  \n<ol style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n<li style=\"margin-left=0px;\">Each of you can think of <strong>a couple (friends, fictional&#8230;) that<\/strong> particularly <strong>inspires you<\/strong>.<\/li>\n\n<li style=\"margin-left=0px;\">Tell the other person who this couple is, and reflect on what inspires you about them: what do they cultivate in their relationship, in terms of values, ways of working&#8230;? What is it about their story that moves you?<\/li>\n\n<li style=\"margin-left=0px;\">Deduce together what&#8217;s important to you in a relationship, and think about how you can implement in your relationship what you like about these inspiring couples.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5621140 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5621140\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-2\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2 - Tip number 2: Develop rich, fluid communication in your couple relationship<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-735c5a7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"735c5a7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We hear it everywhere: communication is the key to a couple that works.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-847bba4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"847bba4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWe agree with this (even if it&#8217;s not the only key), but in our opinion this advice can be difficult to put into action: in concrete terms, what does it mean to communicate well?\nWhat and how to communicate? Here are a few hints.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b12adef elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b12adef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Communicate, yes, but about what?<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ac8cec1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ac8cec1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt can feel like you&#8217;re communicating a lot with your partner, and <strong>yet you don&#8217;t say anything to each other that &#8220;counts&#8221;<\/strong>.<br>\nIt&#8217;s like staying on the surface, and talking only about banalities, or logistical matters: who&#8217;s going to get the bread, the weather outside&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f38a822 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f38a822\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt&#8217;s very frustrating: the discussion is then poor.  \nThis is the <strong>concept of intimacy levels<\/strong>. Theories vary from therapist to therapist, but here we will focus on the one that identifies 5 levels of intimacy in communication:  \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3b98aed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3b98aed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Superficial<\/strong> discussions<br>\n<em>&#8220;The weather is fine today&#8221;<br>\n&#8220;The elevator is broken&#8221;<\/em>\n<\/li>\n <li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Factual<\/strong> conversations<br>\n<em>&#8220;Here&#8217;s what I did today&#8221;.\n<br>\n&#8220;We need to go shopping&#8221;.<\/em>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Intellectual<\/strong> conversations<br>\n<em>&#8220;I didn&#8217;t enjoy my trip to England&#8221;<br>\nI don&#8217;t agree with the government&#8217;s latest reform&#8221;.<\/em>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Emotional<\/strong> conversations<br>\n<em>&#8220;I&#8217;m sad to see you only once this week&#8221;<br>\n&#8220;I&#8217;m anxious about tomorrow&#8217;s exam&#8221;.<\/em>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Conversations about the relationship<\/strong><br>\n<em>&#8220;I think we have to make an effort to stop talking aggressively to each other&#8221;.<br>\n&#8220;I&#8217;d like us to go for a consultation and try to get past this betrayal.&#8221;<\/em>\n<\/li>\t\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c985f5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4c985f5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWhat you can then ask yourself is: &#8220;<strong>are we comfortable on all these levels of conversation? Which are too poor? How can we enrich them?<\/strong>&#8221;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23c9c7f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"23c9c7f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>The last level (the relationship level) is the one that often goes by the wayside on a day-to-day basis. It is however very rich, and can relate in particular to :  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4e2bef7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4e2bef7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 the current state of your relationship: what&#8217;s going well? less well?<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 your expectations and needs in the relationship: what are they? are they satisfied?<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 boundaries in your relationship: is it clear what is and isn&#8217;t acceptable in your relationship?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d18efea elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d18efea\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFinally, when it comes to communication within the couple, one word is central: <strong>curiosity about the other<\/strong>.<br>\nGrowing your relationship doesn&#8217;t just mean talking about the big issues, it also means getting to <strong>know the other person better every day<\/strong>: what anecdotes from your childhood made the biggest impression on you? What is currently stressing him or her the most? What&#8217;s his favourite fruit?&#8230;<br>\nThis is what Dr. Gottman, a specialist in couples for decades in the United States, calls the <em>&#8220;love map&#8221;<\/em>, i.e. the cartography of the other; how well we know our <em>&#8220;territory&#8221;<\/em>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d57dfba elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"d57dfba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"641\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-communication-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288582\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-communication-jpg.webp 641w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-communication-300x161.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-communication-50x27.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 641px) 100vw, 641px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a5d329e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a5d329e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Communicating as a couple: yes, but how?<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e6503e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e6503e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWhen we think of communication, we usually think first of <strong>expressing ourselves<\/strong>, of transmitting a message.<br>\nBut we often forget the second part, which is just as important: communicating is also about <strong>listening<\/strong>. These two elements are inseparable.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce1e1ef elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ce1e1ef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1) Communicate by listening<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b1a7496 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b1a7496\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOne of the keys to feeling happy and fulfilled as a couple is to feel listened to by the other. And <strong>listening is not an innate skill in everyone<\/strong>!\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a7e07e9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a7e07e9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tTools like active listening are invaluable: they help us realize that <strong>most of the time, we&#8217;re not really listening<\/strong>.\n<em>For example, when we look at our phone at the same time, or when we&#8217;re thinking about what we&#8217;re going to say in response, rather than concentrating on what the other person wants to tell us.<\/em>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-67dd407 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"67dd407\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>Here are a few keys to good listening:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Do not interrupt.\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Adapt to his personality, take an interest in what he lives, feels&#8230; as much as in what he says.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Encourage him to expand on what he says, by asking questions.\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Show availability: by being 100% in the moment, but also by rephrasing his words to make sure you&#8217;ve understood them.\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Be patient, avoiding any display of frustration or impatience.\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c72f83 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4c72f83\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2) Express yourself clearly\n<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba5f1fd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba5f1fd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\nIf it&#8217;s important to know how to listen, it&#8217;s also important to know how to express ourselves, so that <strong>we can pass on to others what we&#8217;re experiencing<\/strong>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1fc6a08 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1fc6a08\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSometimes it&#8217;s quite easy to talk about <em>&#8220;surface&#8221;<\/em> subjects, but more difficult to tackle the more complicated ones, such as :  \n\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Our weaknesses and wounds\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Subjects on which we disagree with the other, notably for fear of conflict\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Set healthy limits.<\/li>\n \t\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d0d0e08 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d0d0e08\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Non-violent communication<\/strong> is a highly effective way of starting a conversation on these issues.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c2958c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5c2958c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOverall, non-violent communication encourages transformation <em>(in the case of your spouse forgetting your birthday)<\/em>:\n<ul>\n \t<li>a <strong>reproach<\/strong>: &#8220;you&#8217;re just selfish, you only think of yourself&#8221;.<\/li>\n \t<li>with a <strong>request<\/strong>: &#8220;when I see that you don&#8217;t wish me happy birthday <em>(observation)<\/em>, I feel sad and disappointed <em>(emotion)<\/em>, because I need consideration, respect and celebration <em>(need)<\/em>. Could you set a reminder in your phone so that this doesn&#8217;t happen again? Would you be up for going to a restaurant tomorrow to celebrate? <em>(clear question)<\/em>&#8220;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d0e5d00 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d0e5d00\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise for better communication\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-682bc6d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"682bc6d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-00a6915 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"00a6915\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83d\udca1 We&#8217;d like to take stock of your current communication methods.<br>\nIn your communication, you may have noticed <strong>chronic problems<\/strong>.<br> \n<ul style=\"margin-top:20px; margin-bottom:0px;\">To help you think through these issues, here are a few ideas for the two of you to consider:\n<li>What are the obstacles to better communication between you?\nLike lack of time, tools, stress, fatigue&#8230;<\/li>\n<li>Which patterns (aggressiveness, systematic withdrawal from one or the other&#8230;) don&#8217;t suit you? What can be done to change them?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3f6d690 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3f6d690\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-3\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">3 - Tip number 3: Give sexuality the place it deserves in your relationship.\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-168f509 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"168f509\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWe hear everywhere that sexuality is a pillar of married life: we have mixed feelings on the subject.<br>\nIndeed, saying this can put a lot of pressure on couples, like an <strong>injunction to sexuality<\/strong>. But it&#8217;s more complicated than that: libido can fluctuate, some couples don&#8217;t feel the need to connect in this way&#8230; and that&#8217;s OK.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-67c38b9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"67c38b9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSo let&#8217;s rephrase: in our view, <strong>physical intimacy<\/strong> is one of the pillars of married life. And it&#8217;s not just about sex: there&#8217;s also tenderness, a hand held out in the street&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45a57f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"45a57f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If, however, for you as for many couples, having a fulfilling sex life is important, here are <strong>a few tips for maintaining and developing the chemistry in your relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5c50b04 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5c50b04\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Communicating about sexuality<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3b51aed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3b51aed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOne of the pillars of a fulfilled sexuality is <strong>fluid communication on the subject,<\/strong> even if this doesn&#8217;t always seem obvious at first.<br>\nThese discussions will create a stronger intimacy between you, and this will be beneficial far beyond the bed.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7c73d66 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7c73d66\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tNot sure how to tackle the subject?<br>\nHere are <strong>two ways to think about having a nice discussion about your sexual intimacy<\/strong>:\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b10c5a7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b10c5a7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1) Communication and sexuality: what to talk about\n\n<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e4299b3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e4299b3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">First and foremost,\n<strong>what&#8217;s there to talk about?<\/strong>\n \t<li><strong>Your desires<\/strong>: the way each of you expresses your desire (each person&#8217;s <em>&#8220;language of desire&#8221;<\/em> differs), your fantasies, your triggers (&#8220;when does that turn me on&#8221;&#8230;), what you find attractive in your partner, past intimate moments when you took the most pleasure&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Your obstacles<\/strong>: this could be a complicated relationship with the body, a wound linked to a past experience, a negative message about sexuality received in your upbringing, embarrassment, pressure to perform&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f21a248 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f21a248\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Showing your vulnerability<\/strong> is a real gift to your relationship. Not only will your sex life improve, but you&#8217;ll also come much closer to such intimate discussions.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d5122b4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d5122b4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2) Communication and sexuality: when to talk about it<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-95c99ba elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"95c99ba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Talking about sexuality within the couple is essential, but not just any old way, and not just any old time.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0de1514 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0de1514\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">There are <strong>two places and times to talk about sexuality<\/strong>:\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f  <strong>In bed<\/strong>  communication in bed should be limited to  <strong>to the comfort, desires and desires of the moment<\/strong>  In this case, it&#8217;s inappropriate to talk about the big picture (e.g. &#8220;our sex life doesn&#8217;t suit me any more&#8221;), as the partners are in a vulnerable position.<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Out of bed<\/strong>: for a more general discussion of what suits you, what doesn&#8217;t suit you&#8230; in your sex life. If you don&#8217;t do this proactively, there&#8217;s a risk that sexual issues will only appear in the form of a conflict, an expression of frustration.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-be0db65 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"be0db65\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Finally, you need to communicate <strong>regularly<\/strong> on the subject: everyone&#8217;s intimate life is bound to evolve throughout a couple&#8217;s lifetime. It&#8217;s not a question of considering that what works at a given moment will fulfill you for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-929a236 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"929a236\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Normalize variations and deviations in desire<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8636e6f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8636e6f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOne of the main <em>&#8220;problems&#8221;<\/em> facing most couples is the <strong>difference in libido within<\/strong> the couple, or the way<strong>it changes over time<\/strong>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8d76376 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8d76376\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If society, via magazines, ads&#8230; puts a lot of pressure on couples to have frequent and fulfilling sex all the time, this is not the case for many couples.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-75d5b91 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"75d5b91\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">By <strong>its very nature, desire fluctuates<\/strong>, and this is due to a number of factors:\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Personal<\/strong>: health, stress, contraception&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Relational<\/strong>: duration of the relationship (you don&#8217;t produce the same hormones after 2 months as after 5 years), state of the relationship (difficult to concentrate on your desire when the relationship is going through a difficult period), shared life events (pregnancy&#8230;)&#8230;\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce23eb6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ce23eb6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSo there&#8217;s no pressure to put on yourself.<br>\n<strong>The question <em>&#8220;Are we making love enough?&#8221;<\/em> needs to be replaced by <em>&#8220;Is our sexuality right for us as it is today, in this period of our lives?&#8221;<\/em>.<\/strong>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5426118 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5426118\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Rekindle desire in your relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-94f24d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"94f24d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If you answered &#8220;no&#8221; to the previous question, then there are a number of avenues to explore.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-846f745 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"846f745\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">We have dedicated a\n<strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/maintaining-desire-couple\/\" target=\"_blank\">entire article on the subject of desire<\/a>\n<\/strong>but here are a few avenues to explore:\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Communicate<\/strong>, of course, as we mentioned above.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Plan<\/strong> moments of intimacy: spontaneity is not necessarily the ideal. You&#8217;re free to put it aside and plan times dedicated to getting together sexually (otherwise, sexual encounters run the risk of ending up at the very bottom of your &#8220;to do&#8221; list).<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Try out <strong>new practices<\/strong>, without necessarily going to extremes that don&#8217;t suit you. You can start by trying out new places, inviting a toy&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Determine your <strong>type of desire<\/strong>: not everyone has a type of desire called &#8220;spontaneous&#8221; (&#8220;I want to jump on you without warning&#8221;). For many people, desire is rather reactive and can be stimulated by massage, words&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Work <strong>more globally on your relationship<\/strong>: there&#8217;s no watertight boundary between the state of your overall married life and your sex life.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Giving<\/strong> each other <strong>space<\/strong>, spending time apart: this creates a sense of missing each other and rekindles interest in each other.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Learn to better understand and know your body and your desire on your own; <strong>take care of yourself individually<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-43fbe7d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"43fbe7d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise to enrich your intimate life\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ff4c230 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ff4c230\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-94e107e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"94e107e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83d\udca1 For this tip dedicated to sexuality, we&#8217;d like to suggest the following little exercise: take a jar, and <strong>put little ideas related to your sexuality inside each one<\/strong>.<br> \n<em><ul style=\"margin-top:20px;\">For example:  \n<li>A fantasy you want to realize<\/li>\n<li>A sexual experience you had together that you loved and would like to relive.\n<\/li>\n<li>A part of your partner&#8217;s body that you want to focus on<\/li>\n<li>&#8230;<\/li><\/ul><\/em>\n\nThen set a date in your diary for the two of you to get together. The idea <strong>here<\/strong> is to put the <strong>emphasis on seduction<\/strong>: getting ready for each other as you did in the early days.\nThen there&#8217;s no pressure: the evening can go on without sex, or just drift along. In that case, it&#8217;s time to get out your jar and dig in.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a674ba2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a674ba2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-4\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">4 - Tip number 4: Arm yourself to get through difficult times together<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fcfbac4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fcfbac4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThis advice is probably the most valuable: to be happy as a couple, you have to stop striving for perfection, and understand that it&#8217;s <strong>normal to go through &#8220;good&#8221; phases, and more complicated<\/strong> ones.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f16dce elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6f16dce\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Embracing the waves of the relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b57b224 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b57b224\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Contrary to what you see in the movies (where everything depends on how you meet, and then everything rolls along), life as a couple <strong>isn&#8217;t a smooth ride<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0ffb31b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0ffb31b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFirstly, because <strong>love<\/strong> itself cannot be linear: it <strong>fluctuates in nature and intensity<\/strong>.<br> \nThere are many theories about the phases of love, and it&#8217;s up to you to decide whether or not you agree with them. One thing&#8217;s for sure, though: the intensity and nature of your feelings will not be perfectly linear throughout your life. You&#8217;ll need to be prepared to manage these variations together.<br>\nIf at the beginning it&#8217;s the feeling of love that prevails, and requires no effort, over time this must be transformed into a constructed and chosen love, which must be intentionally nurtured.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d47803a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d47803a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tAs this feeling evolves, so will other <strong>obstacles in your life<\/strong>: illness, unemployment, stress, financial problems, bereavements&#8230; which will inevitably, at certain times, weaken your harmony.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cfe7977 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cfe7977\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s vital to be aware of this and to play it down.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e33baf elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2e33baf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>A couple&#8217;s life is full of happiness, but there are also <strong>periods of doubt<\/strong>, <strong>disconnection<\/strong> and <strong>uncomfortable discussions to be had<\/strong>&#8230;<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3806368 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3806368\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>So how can you overcome them to make your relationship last?<\/u><br>\nIn our opinion, the <strong>ingredients for getting through periods of &#8220;less well<\/strong> &#8221; are as follows:  \n\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;margin-top:0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Reminding you that you didn&#8217;t sign up just for the easy stuff, but also for <strong>not flopping at the first hurdle<\/strong>.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Work every day to <strong>strengthen your connection<\/strong> (as a reminder, love is not a verb of state, but a verb of action).<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Accept that you, as well as your partner, will change. <strong>Flexibility<\/strong> is the key! The couple is not a rigid structure, but rather a GPS that recalculates the itinerary as it goes along.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b90ebe0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b90ebe0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"641\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-epreuve-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288581\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-epreuve-jpg.webp 641w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-epreuve-300x161.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-epreuve-50x27.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 641px) 100vw, 641px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-81a7dbb elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"81a7dbb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Learning to grow from conflict<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5bab1a6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5bab1a6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tLet&#8217;s start by <strong>deconstructing a myth<\/strong> that is deeply rooted in the collective unconscious: that <strong>a &#8220;good couple&#8221; is one that doesn&#8217;t fight<\/strong>.<br>\nAll couples experience conflict, and that&#8217;s normal. The important thing is to learn how to manage them so as not to damage the bond, and even to grow from them.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8b7d40f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8b7d40f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1) Accepting disagreements\n<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b9384f7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b9384f7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tDisagreeing as a couple is therefore perfectly healthy, and even desirable, for a variety of reasons:\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Disagreeing as a couple means that <strong>each of us retains our individuality<\/strong>, our values&#8230; Without this otherness the couple would be quite bland!<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Like life in general, <strong>the couple is a 50\/50<\/strong>, with &#8220;with&#8221; moments and &#8220;without&#8221; moments. These &#8220;without&#8221; moments allow you to munch even harder on the &#8220;with&#8221; moments!<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 You&#8217;ve probably heard stories of couples breaking up overnight, even though they seemed to agree on everything&#8230; This illustrates that<strong>a relationship where everyone keeps everything to themselves<\/strong>, where there is no disagreement expressed, <strong>is not necessarily a healthy model<\/strong>.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 During a conflict, we often react much more strongly to subjects that touch on our frailties: if we put some awareness on this and manage to communicate about these frailties, the  <strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/marital-discords\/\" target=\"_blank\">relationship conflicts<\/a><\/strong>  are an opportunity to get to know yourself and others better.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 When you overcome a conflict, you feel a healthy dose of pleasant emotions, like pride, and your <strong>confidence in your relationship<\/strong> and its strength increases.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ded0034 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ded0034\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2) Learn to \"argue well\"\n<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6d97f0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d6d97f0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBut not all forms of conflict are desirable: in an ideal world, you&#8217;ll always reach a compromise. Failing that, it&#8217;s a matter of learning to argue &#8220;properly&#8221;.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-644c53e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"644c53e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">Here are <u>a few tips<\/u>:  \n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\n\u27a1\ufe0f Identify the <strong>type of conflict<\/strong> you are facing:\n<ul style=\"margin-left:20px;\"><li>if it&#8217;s solvable <em>(e.g. your next vacation spot)<\/em>, learn to compromise to find a win-win solution\n<\/li>\n<li>if unsolvable <em>(e.g. differing political opinions)<\/em>, agree to disagree<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Take a <strong>step back<\/strong> (minimum 20 minutes) when you feel you are &#8220;getting on&#8221;, then return to the discussion once you have calmed down.\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Ban violence in all its forms<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f<strong>Active listening<\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>compartmentalize conflicts<\/strong> to avoid the snowball effect (talking about 10 subjects at the same time is certain to solve none of them)\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63c6713 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"63c6713\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">3)Learning to repair<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12440d8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"12440d8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tSometimes, however, even with the best will in the world, you can have attitudes that are destructive to your relationship (disparaging words spoken in a fit of anger, broken promises&#8230;).\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-734fc9f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"734fc9f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Our advice in such cases: don<strong>&#8216;t just<\/strong> sit back and wait for things to &#8220;blow over&#8221;: it&#8217;s important to be proactive in order to <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/handling-disputes-after-they-have-cooled-down\/\" target=\"_blank\">re-establish a real connection after an argument<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ef02397 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ef02397\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">This means developing two skills in particular:\n \t<li>Learn to <strong>apologize and ask for forgiveness<\/strong>, which isn&#8217;t as easy as you might think.<\/li>\n \t<li>Learning to <strong>forgive<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63d3657 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"63d3657\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise in conflict management<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2c6ad6f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2c6ad6f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0576f3d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0576f3d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83d\udca1 Block a small slot in your diary to look back &#8220;cold&#8221; on one of your recent conflicts.<br>\n<ol style=\"margin-top:20px;\">\n<u>Follow the discussion outline below:<\/u> \n<li>What was the subject of conflict? Keep to the facts in this section. In your opinion, was the conflict solvable or insoluble?<\/li>\n<li>What is it about this subject that triggers a strong emotional reaction in each of us? Is there a deeper issue behind this surface subject?<\/li>\n<li>What responsibility have you each taken for the escalation of this conflict? Accept responsibility and apologize sincerely.<\/li>\n<li>Think about a plan of action to ensure that the next conflict goes differently, more constructively.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4559abc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4559abc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-5\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">5 - Tip number 5: Preserve and develop your two individualities in your relationship<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-64039f0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"64039f0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBeing a couple means wanting to build something together.\nBut that doesn&#8217;t mean we forget each other!<br>\nIt&#8217;s all about finding the right balance between <strong>personal fulfillment<\/strong> and <strong>building a relationship<\/strong>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c145b56 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c145b56\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The balanced couple equation: 1+1=3<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5fed99f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5fed99f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>There are 3 ways of looking at couples:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n \t<li>1+1=1: this is the fusional vision of the couple, in which the partners are &#8220;one and the same&#8221;.<\/li>\n \t<li>1+1=2: the partners remain individuals, but there is no &#8220;common ground&#8221;; they live next door to each other without really meeting.<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>1+1=3<\/strong>: this is the <strong>formula recommended by couple therapists<\/strong>: we explain it below<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3319a5d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3319a5d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">In this third equation, <u>there are 3 elements in your couple:<\/u>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc81\u200d\u2640\ufe0f <strong>You:<\/strong> you are the starting point of your love story.<br>\n  It&#8217;s important to preserve this &#8220;me&#8221;, your identity, your uniqueness, by not merging with your partner.\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc81\u200d\u2642\ufe0f <strong>Your partner<\/strong>, with its own identity.<br>\nThe aim is to accept him or her as he or she is, without trying to change him or her to fit an &#8220;ideal&#8221;.\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc91 <strong>Your relationship<\/strong>, which is an entity in its own right.<br> \nThe aim: to care for this space, make it grow, nourish it&#8230;\nYou can compare it to a garden to be cultivated: you must regularly remove the weeds (for example, unexpressed resentments, latent conflicts&#8230;), give it water (communication, time spent together, tenderness&#8230;) and choose what to grow (your objectives, shared values&#8230;).\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e5643fe elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e5643fe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">What's the point of this vision?<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8bfa5e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b8bfa5e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\nLooking at it this way allows us to do several things:\n<li>The couple is no longer a space that locks you in, but an entity in its own right that needs to be nurtured, otherwise it will die.<\/li>\n<li>Each can retain his or her individuality: the couple doesn&#8217;t &#8220;contain either of them&#8221;, so there&#8217;s no fear or risk of getting lost in it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-15659b1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"15659b1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Keeping two individualities<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2904aa4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2904aa4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>So how do you maintain both individualities within the couple?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9c26fb2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9c26fb2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>Here are a few tips:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Getting to know you individually :<br> <strong>Be clear about your own personality traits<\/strong>, and learn how to reconcile them with those of your partner without minimizing them.<br>\nThe aim is, for those elements of your personalities that seem incompatible at first sight <em>(for example, between a spendthrift and a thrifty person)<\/em>, not to try to erase these differences, but to understand and accept them, and to find ways of making them live together serenely.<br>\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/premarital-counseling-course\/#unio-courses\" target=\"_blank\">We accompany you in this reflection in session 1 of the Unio premarital counseling program.<\/a><\/strong>.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Ditto for your <strong>individual inheritances<\/strong>:<br>  You have received from your respective upbringings and experiences elements (values, rituals&#8230;) that, if they are dear to you, you will have to continue to cultivate.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Finding the right balance between <strong>time together<\/strong> and <strong>time apart<\/strong>.<br>\nWhile our society still generally values the model of the &#8220;fusional&#8221; couple, and this model works in the initial honeymoon phase, it is not viable over the long term, as it creates a risk of suffocation.<br>\nA certain need for distance, far from meaning that love diminishes, feeds love (each returns to the other after a moment apart with things to talk about, impressions to share&#8230;).<br>\nIt&#8217;s up to you to find your own balance between what therapists Carolle and Serge Vidal-Graf call <em>&#8220;inspiration-fusion&#8221;<\/em> and <em>&#8220;expiration-separation&#8221;<\/em> (in their book <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.fr\/Couple-r%C3%AAv%C3%A9-r%C3%A9el-amoureux-lamour-ebook\/dp\/B01ILCPFWG\" target=\"_blank\">Couple r\u00eave couple r\u00e9el: de l&#8217;\u00e9tat amoureux \u00e0 l&#8217;amour<\/a>\n<\/strong>. Just as you need two breathing cycles to live, a couple needs a succession of moments of fusion and separation.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Be aware that, although the other person can help meet your needs, you remain responsible for them. <strong>Your partner alone cannot be the sole source of your happiness<\/strong>.<br>\n<em>For example, why bother sharing your passion for reading with your insensitive partner? Instead, find other people in your circle with whom you can share it.<\/em><br>\nYour relationship will be all the richer for it, with two passionate individuals with things to talk about when they meet again.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b27e2a3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b27e2a3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Accepting interdependence<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bde725b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bde725b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Keeping your independence doesn&#8217;t mean living in parallel, without any real encounter: building a lasting relationship means <strong>accepting that interdependence is created<\/strong> within the couple.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4d5b2c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a4d5b2c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>This means learning to  <strong>accepting influence<\/strong>  of your partner: accept to change your point of view on certain subjects, to adapt certain ways of functioning in daily life, to make compromises&#8230; as long as this doesn&#8217;t alter what you are deep down inside (your values, for example).<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6856719 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6856719\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>For this to work, it&#8217;s important to establish and communicate healthy limits: what each member of the couple is willing or not willing to accept.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-07a332a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"07a332a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The couple as a springboard for personal fulfillment<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a9bce0d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a9bce0d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThe couple is also a springboard for individual projects.<br>\nOne of the most beautiful functions of a couple, far from limiting you, is to <strong>enable you to reconnect with who you were before you forgot your dreams<\/strong>.  <br>\nThe other sees in you the treasure, the abilities, the talents&#8230; that perhaps you no longer see!\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-03982f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"03982f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Personal development is the key to a fulfilling relationship.<\/strong><br> \n<em>&#8220;Amazing things can happen in a relationship when each member of the couple is able to change and grow, and at the same time accommodate (and be supportive of) the other&#8217;s personal development.&#8221;<\/em> (John and Julie Gottman, <u>Huit rendez-vous amoureux<\/u>).\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-453172f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"453172f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFinding the right person doesn&#8217;t mean limiting yourself for that person. <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/plans-and-couple\/\" target=\"_blank\">relying on them to help you achieve your full potential in your individual projects<\/a>\n<\/strong>.<br>\n<em>For example, perhaps your wife could take over the financial side of things for a year while you go back to school to take that course you&#8217;ve been dreaming of for several years.<\/em><br>\nDon&#8217;t be afraid to talk about your wildest dreams, and define an action plan together, as teammates!\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4bf989a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4bf989a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise for growing as an individual couple<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ec4cfcc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ec4cfcc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-44bdb27 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"44bdb27\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83d\udca1 Take a piece of paper and list, among your daily habits (meals, outings&#8230;) and hobbies:  \n<ul style=\"margin-bottom:30px;\">\n<li>The things you do together<\/li>\n<li>The things you do separately<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\nFirst, compare the 2 lists visually: which is longer?\n\n<ul style=\"margin-top:30px;\"><u>Then take the time for a two-way discussion:<\/u> \n<li>\nDoes this breakdown suit you?<\/li>\n<li>If the first part (things done together) seems poor: what activities could you share as a couple to increase your complicity?<\/li>\n<li>If the second part (things done separately) seems poor: are there parts of your life (passions, hobbies&#8230;) that you&#8217;ve left out? With what resources outside the couple (people, associations, time alone&#8230;) could you nourish these areas of your life?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e587a82 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e587a82\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-6\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">6 - Tip number 6: Build a healthy, balanced daily routine together<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-57dd685 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"57dd685\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tLiving together means <strong>sharing daily life<\/strong>.<br>\nAnd cohabitation isn&#8217;t always easy: in a couple, everyone has grown up with different ways of functioning.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7da1cb5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7da1cb5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFor a fulfilling life as a couple, it is therefore necessary to agree on several <strong>key subjects of daily life<\/strong>, such as :\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li><strong>Time<\/strong> management<\/li>\n \t<li>The <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/money-management-couple\/\" target=\"_blank\">money management<\/a>\n<\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Household chores<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b96afeb elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b96afeb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"641\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-menage-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288580\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-menage-jpg.webp 641w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-menage-300x161.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-menage-50x27.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 641px) 100vw, 641px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b6dcf1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7b6dcf1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Managing time and routine<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f8cf9c1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f8cf9c1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>You <strong>divide your time between your different areas of life<\/strong>: your professional life, your hobbies, your relationship, your family&#8230;  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63c8cb4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"63c8cb4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s important to take stock of your time allocation: is there a gap between your aspirations and your current rhythm? If so, did the two of you discuss it? What could you do <strong>to distribute it more evenly<\/strong>?  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ac5eb40 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ac5eb40\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\"><u>In particular, you may wish to consider the following questions:<\/u>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Life as a couple<\/strong>, and later as a family: the balance between time alone and time together.  \n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Professional life<\/strong>: what role does it play in your life? It&#8217;s important for you to discuss what this position implies for each of you, to agree on the sacrifices you&#8217;re ready to accept, what your limits are&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Leisure<\/strong> and free time, separately and together. Do they have their rightful place?\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f The <strong>&#8220;satellites<\/strong> &#8220;: what role do your family of origin, your in-laws, your friends and your partner&#8217;s friends play in your life? Does this suit you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6b40a0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d6b40a0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Money management<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-17c3088 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"17c3088\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tMoney is no less important a resource, and <strong>can quickly become a source of conflict if poorly managed<\/strong>.<br>\nThe question of how the couple&#8217;s finances work needs to be clearly addressed together.  \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e83a790 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e83a790\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>And this on several levels:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Accounts<\/strong>: do you have separate accounts? A single account for all your resources?  \n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f The<strong>difference in economic power<\/strong>: for example, if there&#8217;s a big difference in salary, do you think it&#8217;s normal for one person to contribute more to household expenses than the other? Without discussion, unhealthy power struggles can ensue.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Assets<\/strong>: What would you like to pool? Are you planning a joint purchase? If so, will you be 50% owners despite different contributions?<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Roles<\/strong>: who manages accounts, subscriptions, etc.?<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Joint expenses<\/strong>: do you want to set certain rules, such as a purchase amount above which you must ask the other&#8217;s agreement?<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f <strong>Philosophy<\/strong>: what is your vision of money?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4ab804 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a4ab804\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Household chores<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2b27d01 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2b27d01\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Last but not least, everyday life means <strong>household chores<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cfcee7e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cfcee7e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>The most widespread vision of today&#8217;s couple is that of an egalitarian couple, where decisions are taken by mutual agreement after negotiation and compromise. However, it&#8217;s unrealistic (and inefficient) to try to ensure that everything is split 50\/50 in each area.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-be23a0f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"be23a0f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThese are  <strong>seek overall balance<\/strong>but in most fields there will be a leader and a follower:  <strong>for each responsibility (children&#8217;s medical appointments, errands&#8230;), one of the two will take the lead<\/strong>This doesn&#8217;t mean ignoring your partner&#8217;s advice, support and opinion.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d44f14c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d44f14c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThere are many tasks to divide up: housework, shopping, administration, bills, managing leisure activities, social life, education&#8230;<br>\nAnd without conscience, they are distributed automatically, according to the dictates of society, family traditions&#8230; which don&#8217;t necessarily correspond to the couple at the moment.\nThe solution: <strong>go back to<\/strong> the drawing board and divide the work up according to individual <strong>tastes and skills<\/strong>.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6cdefe8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6cdefe8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>A little tip to conclude on household chores: remember to always <strong>express gratitude for what each of you does in the relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-231c3b1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"231c3b1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise for a fluid daily life\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-67d7153 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"67d7153\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f7b3448 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f7b3448\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>\ud83d\udca1 If managing daily tasks is a bone of contention with you, it&#8217;s time to roll up your sleeves and do the following exercise.<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 20px;\">Take a blank sheet of paper and draw up a table with 4 columns: <strong>task<\/strong> (name of the task), <strong>initial situation<\/strong> (who is managing it at the moment), <strong>ideal situation<\/strong> (in the ideal situation, who do you think would manage it? You, your partner, an outside service&#8230;?), <strong>action plan<\/strong> (what you agree on).<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 20px;\">\u27a1\ufe0f Fill in your chart individually, then compare (or do it together live): note any imbalances, negotiate and find a compromise that suits you both. Be very precise and exhaustive on the list of tasks, even if it takes a long time, to really find an overall balance.<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 20px;\">\n\nAnd don&#8217;t forget to repeat this exercise as soon as the balance is no longer satisfactory for either of you.\n<div><\/div>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f78414a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f78414a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-7\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">7 - Tip number 7: Be clear about the family you want to create<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c1f8649 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c1f8649\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIn our opinion, it&#8217;s <strong>essential<\/strong> to broach the subject of family <strong>right from the start of the relationship<\/strong>.  \nThis avoids disillusionment once the relationship is well established.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0a9f694 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0a9f694\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tA long-term commitment for two means starting a family.\nEach couple is free to build it <strong>in the way they wish: just the two of them, with children, or surrounded by animals, friends<\/strong>&#8230; \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e990171 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e990171\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Whatever you decide (whether or not to have children), it&#8217;s important to discuss it in advance, to <strong>make sure your family life plans are compatible<\/strong>, otherwise you run the risk of exposing yourself to major frustrations on both sides later on.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4d5e382 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4d5e382\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If you&#8217;re thinking about becoming a parent, or have already made that choice, we think it&#8217;s important to discuss two major themes  <strong>&#8220;family model&#8221;<\/strong>  you want to create (number of children, how you want your life to be set up for their arrival&#8230;) and a slightly more complex  <strong>&#8220;spiritual&#8221;<\/strong>  (the values you want to pass on to them).<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8eb75e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8eb75e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The family model<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59695bb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"59695bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s essential to discuss the family model you want to create.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6ac4d2f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6ac4d2f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>Here are 4 avenues to explore:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Imagine the <strong>&#8220;shape&#8221; your ideal family could take<\/strong>: ideal number of children, timing of the first, age gap&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Thinking about <strong>design and adoption issues<\/strong>.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Agree on the <strong>lifestyle<\/strong> you imagine with the arrival of children: impact on your professional lives, where you live, the couple&#8217;s place in it all&#8230;<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Address <strong>your possible (and probable) fears<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b2772cc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b2772cc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Transmission\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-06bbade elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"06bbade\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\nParenthood is also associated with the notion of transmission, with two dimensions to be explored in love:\n<li>The <strong>values<\/strong> you want to pass on to your future children.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Education<\/strong>, that is, the way you want to pass them on.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-154bca3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"154bca3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise for a fluid daily life<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-01b30c2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"01b30c2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5a30d92 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5a30d92\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>\ud83d\udca1 Each select from the list of <strong>educational values<\/strong> below the 3 that seem most important to you, then <strong>exchange in pairs why they are<\/strong>:<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 20px;\"><em>politeness, sharing, honesty, autonomy, self-confidence, mutual aid, self-knowledge, empathy, curiosity, critical sense, expression, adaptation, prudence, realism, fulfillment, pleasure, respect, physical safety, emotional safety, mutual aid, equity, success, freedom, respect for nature, non-violence, spontaneity, respect for rules, openness, courage, prudence, efficiency, conviction, surpassing oneself, honesty, benevolence, simplicity, surpassing oneself, generosity, positivity, creativity.<\/em>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce42d1e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ce42d1e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-8\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">8 - Tip number 8: Enrich your life as a couple with meaningful projects<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8e5531d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8e5531d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThere&#8217;s a lot of talk about &#8220;working on your relationship&#8221;.<br> \nThis involves some not-so-fun things (having uncomfortable discussions, dealing with conflicts&#8230;) but also some hyper-positive and sometimes light-hearted things: <strong>building joint projects<\/strong> and <strong>putting fun at the heart of your life as a couple<\/strong>!\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c512f71 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c512f71\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Joint projects<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f35263e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f35263e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>The project is one of the foundations of the couple: it&#8217;s what carries you forward, enabling you to <strong>project yourselves into the future together<\/strong>.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1ca9155 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1ca9155\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s why it&#8217;s so important to talk about your shared dreams as a couple: <strong>starting a family, creating a business together, traveling, building a house<\/strong>&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cf958e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cf958e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>Our advice?<\/u>\n<ol style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n \t<li><strong>Put them in black<\/strong> and white, so you can come back to them regularly: if they seem clear to you today, it&#8217;s very easy to lose sight of them in the whirlwind of everyday life&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Draw up an action plan!<\/strong>  This means prioritizing them, defining deadlines, taking into account constraints and barriers, then finding solutions to overcome them&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63d36a9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"63d36a9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\ud83c\udf08 Dreaming together is a beautiful fuel for the couple: it creates<strong>excitement<\/strong>, <strong>passion<\/strong>&#8230; and puts us into action!\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3164248 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"3164248\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"641\" height=\"344\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-aventure-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288579\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-aventure-jpg.webp 641w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-aventure-300x161.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/couple-aventure-50x27.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 641px) 100vw, 641px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a4e282d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a4e282d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Put some fun in your relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-41bf4d7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"41bf4d7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the shorter term, to live a fulfilling married life, you need to be able to take a step back from your day-to-day life. Beyond everyday &#8220;tasks&#8221; and automatisms, what do <strong>you share together<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-baaeb92 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"baaeb92\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFor many couples, <strong>play and fun together is the thing that disappears most quickly<\/strong>, and they find themselves dead last on the &#8220;to do&#8221; list.<br> \nThe happiest couples are those who play, <strong>laugh, have fun, go on adventures<\/strong> together&#8230; Spending pleasant moments together, discovering new activities, reinforces the feeling of connection.<br> \nThrough these activities (hiking, board games&#8230;), you share pleasure and a common goal.  \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02c823e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"02c823e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>This doesn&#8217;t have <strong>to take the form of completely extraordinary activities<\/strong>: couples can laugh while doing the dishes together!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-417502b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"417502b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIf you have very different ways of &#8220;playing&#8221; and having fun, explore how you&#8217;re different, but also how you&#8217;re similar.<br> \n<em>If one of you likes thrills, climbing&#8230; and the other is more contemplative, why not embark on a hiking passion together?<\/em>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e8420ca elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e8420ca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt&#8217;s all about <strong>going on an adventure together, discovering something new<\/strong>, whether it&#8217;s taking a cooking class, going away for a weekend in the next d\u00e9partement&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ac5cb50 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ac5cb50\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Putting it into practice: a little exercise to put the fun and lightness back into your relationship<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eabe1e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"eabe1e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Reading a blog post is great. It&#8217;s better to take action as a couple!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0a57f2d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0a57f2d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>\ud83d\udca1 Do you want to experience unique moments for 2, that get out of the routine?\nDon&#8217;t let this idea pass you by, and start planning your next date now.<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-top: 20px;\">We&#8217;ve made it easy for you: <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.unio-preparation.com\/60-activites-a-faire-en-couple\/\" target=\"_blank\">discover our guide to 60 ideas for activities to do as a couple<\/a>\n<\/strong>.<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-211d4e5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"211d4e5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"tip-9\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">9 - Bonus tip: incorporate our magic ingredient for a fulfilling married life<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eb7e9f8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"eb7e9f8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Finally, we&#8217;re going to give you our secret ingredient for a happy married life&#8230; This miracle element is <strong>willpower<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-52229e4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"52229e4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In our opinion, this is the most important ingredient for getting through years of life together, because it&#8217;s <strong>the one that will allow all the others to exist<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3b068ca elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3b068ca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u><strong>Willpower<\/strong> is important at every stage of the relationship:<\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 When you decided to commit to each other and make your union official: it was the <strong>desire to build together<\/strong> that carried you along.\n<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 When things are going well, it&#8217;s the <strong>willingness to take your relationship to even greater heights<\/strong> that will enrich your relationship.<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 When the going gets tough, this is where it plays its greatest role: it&#8217;s your <strong>determination not to give up at the first sign of trouble<\/strong>, to roll up your sleeves&#8230; that will get you through the storms.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-97d6ccc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"97d6ccc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>In concrete terms, <strong>what are<\/strong> we talking about? For example, the will to :  <\/u>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px; margin-top: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Doing little acts of love every day, speaking each other&#8217;s language<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Don&#8217;t give up at the first hurdle<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Seek outside help (therapists, sexologists&#8230;) if you feel the need.<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Learning to communicate as an adult<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Forgive<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Having sometimes uncomfortable discussions<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Compromise<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Proactively create moments of fun and adventure for two<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Being there for each other through thick and thin<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Carrying out joint projects<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Making your relationship a priority<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Working on yourself individually\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\ud83d\udc49 Taking responsibility<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-853f469 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"853f469\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Conclusion<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f5053f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6f5053f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Life as a couple is a <strong>demanding adventure<\/strong>, with its share of challenges, but it&#8217;s also one of the <strong>most beautiful human adventures<\/strong>: if it&#8217;s well managed, it&#8217;s a wonderful key to fulfillment, a source of many and varied joys.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b89a7ff elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b89a7ff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWith these <strong>9 detailed and comprehensive tips<\/strong>, you&#8217;ll have a good basis on which to work on the most important aspects of your married life.<br>\nWe hope that the <strong>short exercises at the end of each section<\/strong> will help you put this into practice.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3300d7d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3300d7d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tOf course, you can&#8217;t work on all these aspects of your relationship at once: prioritize those that seem most relevant to your relationship at the moment. Forget perfection, prefer small actions and day-to-day improvements: that&#8217;s what relationship growth is all about.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d6b9f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3d6b9f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIf you want to go further and invest in your relationship for the long term, <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/premarital-counseling-course\" class=\"lien_html\" target=\"_blank\">the Unio premarital counseling program<\/a><\/strong> will enable you to explore all these subjects in greater depth, in a friendly setting, with your partner, at home, with guidance&#8230;\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-69274ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" 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We wanted to <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">to give real meaning to our commitment <\/span><\/strong>and prepare ourselves properly.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-114aa12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"114aa12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s how Unio was born: the <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">100% secular &amp; online premarital counseling program<\/span><\/strong>.\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read more &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4019a43 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"4019a43\" 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