{"id":288814,"date":"2022-04-14T16:39:30","date_gmt":"2022-04-14T15:39:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/blog\/false-beliefs-about-couples\/"},"modified":"2024-05-29T16:47:38","modified_gmt":"2024-05-29T15:47:38","slug":"false-beliefs-couples","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/false-beliefs-couples\/","title":{"rendered":"False beliefs about couples"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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False beliefs about couples<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Have you ever heard phrases like “everyone around me is divorced, I’ll probably end up the same way<\/i>“, or from a complexed former teenager “I’ll never please anyone anyway<\/i>“?<\/p>\n\n

We all have beliefs about love and relationships: these are the filters through which we view our love life.
\nThey can be personal (as in the two examples above) or more general, such as “no man is looking for lasting love today<\/i>“, or “if a couple quarrels, it means they’re heading for disaster!<\/i><\/p>\n\n

So where do these beliefs come from, and how can we free ourselves from them if necessary?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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\ud83d\udca1 Becoming aware of these beliefs is one of the first steps to enabling you to
\n build a solid foundation for a successful married life.<\/a>
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The origin of our beliefs about couples and love<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Our beliefs have various sources: society, our family environment and our individual romantic history.<\/p>\n\n

First of all, society: depending on the country, the era, the environment… where we were born, our perception of love and married life varies greatly.
\nIn our society, it is very strongly influenced by Walt Disney and romantic comedies, which have conveyed a central idea: one must put all one’s energy into finding the right person<\/strong> (myth: only one person on earth can suit us), then everything goes like clockwork.they lived happily and had many children<\/i>“(second myth: once you’ve found the right the right person<\/strong>No need to make the slightest effort, everything is super-smooth!)<\/p>\n\n

But even within a given society, our perceptions differ according to our family history: our vision of the couple depends very much on the models of couples we grew up with around us: fusional or independent couples, “independent” couples or “independent” couples.unstable<\/i>” or, on the contrary, only lifelong marriages…<\/p>\n\n

Our personal romantic history also strongly influences our vision of love: if, for example, our first love affair was marked by violence, we integrate the idea that love goes hand in hand with violence into our future love life.<\/p>\n\n

It’s also important to understand the concept of congruence<\/span>: the human brain is constantly seeking to confirm its beliefs. We will therefore attract experiences that confirm our initial vision of love.
\nFor example, a woman whose mother has always told her that all men are unfaithful and untrustworthy is much more likely to attract this type of man into her life.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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What are the most common beliefs about couples?\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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  1. Merger<\/span>
    \nIn movies, songs… happy couples are those who spend 100% of their time together.\nThe expression that symbolizes this perfectly is “my other half<\/i>“. Which implicitly means that without the other, I’m not whole and complete.
    \nAt Unio, we advocate a different vision: each member of a couple must cultivate his or her individuality, and one of the great challenges of a couple is to find the balance between time spent together and time spent apart<\/strong>.
    This is a subject we invite you to explore further in session 7 of the Unio premarital counseling program (to find out more about the course, click here \ud83d\udc49 https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/premarital-counseling-course<\/a><\/strong>).<\/li>\n \t
  2. Conflicts<\/span>
    \nA widespread myth is that a happy couple is one that never argues, and agrees on everything.\n