{"id":288827,"date":"2022-06-30T16:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-06-30T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/blog\/how-to-put-toltec-agreements-into-pratice\/"},"modified":"2024-05-29T16:43:00","modified_gmt":"2024-05-29T15:43:00","slug":"how-to-put-toltec-agreements-into-pratice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/how-to-put-toltec-agreements-into-pratice\/","title":{"rendered":"How to put Toltec Agreements into pratice ?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"288827\" class=\"elementor elementor-288827 elementor-10524\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-08c0a88 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"08c0a88\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b90ecbe\" data-id=\"b90ecbe\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7985e272 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7985e272\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3c407ede\" data-id=\"3c407ede\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8408411 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8408411\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"titre_article\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">How to put Toltec Agreements into pratice ?<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-66e3a8fb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"66e3a8fb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tYou&#8217;ve probably heard of the personal development bestseller &#8220;<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.fr\/quatre-accords-tolt%C3%A8ques-libert%C3%A9-personnelle\/dp\/2889116549\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Toltec Agreements<\/a><\/strong>&#8220;. If you haven&#8217;t read it yet, we&#8217;ve done it for you \ud83d\ude0a.\nThis concise book was written by Miguel Ruiz.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1264dc4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1264dc4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>He makes the following observation: since childhood, we have been entangled in limiting beliefs that have been proposed to us by society. As children, we were unable to sort things out, and internalized the injunctions we received. Over time, we came to believe that they emanated from us, and that they were THE truth.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4220919 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4220919\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>What Miguel Ruiz proposes in this book is to become aware of them, break with those that are not useful to us, and decide to form new &#8220;<i>agreements<\/i>&#8220;.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2fc022ac elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"2fc022ac\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-3.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288195\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-3.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/2-3-50x33.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0d9526d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0d9526d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThe &#8220;<i>agreements<\/i>&#8221; proposed in the book take the form of <strong>4 major life principles<\/strong>:\n<ul>\n \t<li>impeccable speech,<\/li>\n \t<li>never take<i>it<\/i>personally,<\/li>\n \t<li>don&#8217;t make assumptions,<\/li>\n \t<li>and always do your best.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nThese agreements can be applied to all areas of life, but here we&#8217;ve decided to think about how they can be applied to married life.  \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c7e0a95 elementor-widget-mobile__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c7e0a95\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\ud83d\udca1 Also discover our article: <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/couple-life\/#tip-3\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Vie de couple : nos 9 conseils pratiques pour la r\u00e9ussir (in French only)<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-723f5938 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"723f5938\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Toltec agreement number 1: Let your word be impeccable<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e7c3f1a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3e7c3f1a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In Miguel Ruiz&#8217;s book, this agreement means not having <strong>any negative words<\/strong> about ourselves or others. This includes &#8220;<i>external<\/i>&#8221; speech, but also internal speech, i.e. thoughts and inner dialogue.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-96b0cb2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"96b0cb2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Unfortunately, we have always been conditioned to slander, criticize, judge&#8230;and negative words can have a &#8220;negative&#8221; impact.<i>poisonous<\/i>&#8220;A child who is told that he or she is a poor reader will take this to be true, and will not give himself or herself any chance of becoming a good reader, regardless of his or her real abilities. An impeccable speech contributes to a less violent world.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-22b965a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"22b965a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul>In a relationship, it&#8217;s easy enough to understand how\n<strong>transpose this agreement<\/strong>:\n \t<li>in our exchanges with others, it&#8217;s important to avoid insults and criticism&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li>when we talk about our spouse too: if you tend to point out what he\/she does wrong, you&#8217;re helping to tarnish his\/her image. It&#8217;s time to change that!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2977a9c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2977a9c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Of course, nobody&#8217;s perfect: in an argument, anger can get the better of you, and harsh words can be exchanged. In this case, it is very important to <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/handling-disputes-after-they-have-cooled-down\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">to come back to the dispute<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>to apologize.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-26a18ca elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"26a18ca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"color: #ec6664; font-weight: 600;\">A concrete example of how to apply this agreement:<\/span>\nyou can <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.unio-preparation.com\/vie-de-couple\/la-communication-non-violente\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">use non-violent communication<\/a>\n<\/strong>.\nThus, &#8220;<i>you haven&#8217;t cleared the table, you only think of yourself<\/i>&#8221; becomes &#8220;<i>when you don&#8217;t clear the table, I don&#8217;t feel respected, because I need to know that I&#8217;m not the only one taking care of our house. Could you please be more careful in the future?<\/i>&#8220;\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d2d7cd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7d2d7cd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>And voila, magic: your speech is impeccable, and the message is received much more effectively.<\/strong><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fc66882 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fc66882\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Negative self-talk in a relationship is one of the <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/relationship-ennemies\/\">10 relationship enemies to avoid<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-51a5bef3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"51a5bef3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1-3.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288194\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1-3.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1-3-50x33.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f3f364d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2f3f364d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Toltec agreement number 2: Don't take it personally<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-245f54ce elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"245f54ce\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In Miguel Ruiz&#8217;s book, this agreement consists in making others responsible for their actions.<\/p>\n\n<p>&#8220;<i><strong>What you think, what you feel, is your problem, not mine<\/strong>. It&#8217;s the way you see the world. It doesn&#8217;t affect me personally, because you&#8217;re only dealing with yourselves, not with me. Others will have a different opinion, depending on their belief system.<\/i>&#8220;. It&#8217;s the same in a couple: our emotional and affective lives are interdependent, but <strong>each member of the couple must be responsible for his or her own behavior, emotions<\/strong>&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><\/p><ul>So when your spouse comes home from work in a bad mood and barely speaks to you, you have two options:\n \t<li>Brace yourself, telling you that he doesn&#8217;t love you enough, that you&#8217;ve done something wrong&#8230;<\/li>\n \t<li>Or take a step back, and extract yourself from the situation. His attitude is his business, and has nothing to do with you. He&#8217;ll be back once he&#8217;s dealt with his emotions.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #ec6664; font-weight: 600;\">A concrete example of how to apply this agreement:<\/span> change perspective.\nFor example, when you feel your partner is spending too much time with his or her friends. Rather than saying to yourself, &#8220;<i>He&#8217;s running away from home and my company<\/i>&#8220;, take the time to discuss it with him or her.\nChances are his behavior has nothing to do with you, but with his own need for openness and independence&#8230;<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c73f6b6 gallery-spacing-custom elementor-widget elementor-widget-image-gallery\" data-id=\"c73f6b6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image-gallery.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image-gallery\">\n\t\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-288827 gallery-columns-2 gallery-size-large'><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"c73f6b6\" data-elementor-lightbox-title=\"Appliquer les accords tolt\u00e8ques dans son couple - Unio Pr\u00e9paration\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6Mjg4MTk3LCJ1cmwiOiJodHRwczpcL1wvYXBwLnVuaW8tcHJlcGFyYXRpb24uY29tXC93cC1jb250ZW50XC91cGxvYWRzXC8yMDIyXC8wNVwvNS0xLmpwZyIsInNsaWRlc2hvdyI6ImM3M2Y2YjYifQ%3D%3D\" href='https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1.jpg'><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1.jpg 682w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1-300x450.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/5-1-50x75.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 682px) 100vw, 682px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure><figure class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<div class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"c73f6b6\" data-elementor-lightbox-title=\"Appliquer les accords tolt\u00e8ques dans son couple - Unio Pr\u00e9paration\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6Mjg4MTk4LCJ1cmwiOiJodHRwczpcL1wvYXBwLnVuaW8tcHJlcGFyYXRpb24uY29tXC93cC1jb250ZW50XC91cGxvYWRzXC8yMDIyXC8wNVwvNi5qcGciLCJzbGlkZXNob3ciOiJjNzNmNmI2In0%3D\" href='https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6.jpg'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"682\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6.jpg 682w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6-300x450.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/6-50x75.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 682px) 100vw, 682px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-53791f2d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"53791f2d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Toltec agreement number 3: Don't make assumptions<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2ef85244 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2ef85244\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIn Miguel Ruiz&#8217;s book, this agreement means not making &#8220;<i>guesses&#8221;<\/i>about what other people think, what makes them act&#8230;\nIn our opinion, this is the most important agreement for the couple. Indeed, <strong>many people in couples :<\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0365671 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0365671\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul>\n \t<li>Think they know everything, wrongly, about their partner&#8217;s way of thinking and functioning<\/li>\n \t<li>Think their spouse thinks the same way they do<\/li>\n \t<li>Keep the fantasy of the couple where each guesses, without communication, what the other needs, wants&#8230;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-315462f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"315462f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>These three behaviors are harmful. With all the intimacy in the world, the other person remains an independent person, with his or her own history, psychology&#8230; So there&#8217;s only one solution: rather than making assumptions, <strong>communicate!<\/strong><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-508df4d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"508df4d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"color: #ec6664; font-weight: 600;\">A concrete example of how to apply this agreement:<\/span>\nIf your <strong>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/5-love-languages\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">love language<\/a>\n<\/strong> is that of gifts, don&#8217;t assume that your partner will guess it and give you a huge surprise for your birthday. Be proactive and clearly express your need\/want: &#8220;<i>I&#8217;d like you to organize a special moment for the two of us, for my birthday<\/i>&#8220;.\nHe or she will probably be happy to do it, but wouldn&#8217;t necessarily have thought of it on their own if this love language wasn&#8217;t theirs!\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12c9f780 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"12c9f780\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/4-2.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288193\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/4-2.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/4-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/4-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/4-2-50x33.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6c79ab40 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6c79ab40\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Toltec agreement number 4: Always do your best<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-795a426c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"795a426c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>One last word for the road: in Miguel Ruiz&#8217;s book, this agreement means always doing your best; <strong>not waiting for the perfect situation before taking action<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><\/p><ul>In the couple, this agreement is interesting in our opinion for several reasons:\n<li>There are a lot of injunctions around the couple: have a top libido, great complicity, few arguments&#8230; and this can be discouraging, or stressful. Here, <strong>doing your best won&#8217;t mean aiming for unattainable standards, but ensuring that the couple is a place of peace and growth<\/strong> for both of them, by implementing lots of little actions on a daily basis.<\/li>\n<li>A couple has its ups and downs. In the &#8220;<i>lowlands<\/i>&#8220;, this agreement is important, because to have committed oneself to a lasting relationship is to commit oneself to doing<i>one&#8217;s<\/i>&#8220;<i>best<\/i>&#8221; to preserve the couple&#8217;s space. And if at a given moment you don&#8217;t feel capable of taking big steps, taking a tiny step (a word of attention, a &#8220;<i>pardon<\/i>&#8220;&#8230;) is already doing your best!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n<p><span style=\"color: #ec6664; font-weight: 600;\">A concrete example of how to apply this agreement:<\/span><br>\nAfter an argument, everyone went too far in their comments. In this situation, rather than locking yourself behind barricades, &#8220;<i>doing your best<\/i>&#8221; means taking responsibility, and trying to make amends, by apologizing for example.<br>\nIn short, it means accepting that your relationship isn&#8217;t &#8220;<i>perfect<\/i>&#8220;, but <strong>taking small steps every day to get closer to a beautiful harmony<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-84e68c7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"84e68c7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/3-3.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288196\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/3-3.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/3-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/3-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/3-3-50x33.jpg 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-705a8974 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"705a8974\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">So, are you ready to put these 4 agreements into practice?<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f4eb591 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2f4eb591\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>For starters, why not dedicate a day of the week to each chord?<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5df2794d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5df2794d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><i>Photo credits: Nathalie de chez <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/brune.photographie\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">Brune photographie<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong> which you can find on her website <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.brunephotographie.fr\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\">here<\/a><br 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We decided to get married and set about preparing for our big day with great excitement.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-548e898 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"548e898\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt was great, but something was clearly missing. We wanted to <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">to give real meaning to our commitment <\/span><\/strong>and prepare ourselves properly.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-114aa12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"114aa12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s how Unio was born: the <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">100% secular &amp; online premarital counseling program<\/span><\/strong>.\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read more &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4019a43 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"4019a43\" 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style=\"color: #f19879;\">lay the foundations for a solid marriage<\/span><\/strong> without spending hours on it, and without going to church.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb2e9ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cb2e9ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Our premarital counseling program:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% secular<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% online<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% fun<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9a06fd1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"9a06fd1\" 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We decided to get married and set about preparing for our big day with great excitement.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-548e898 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"548e898\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt was great, but something was clearly missing. We wanted to <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">to give real meaning to our commitment <\/span><\/strong>and prepare ourselves properly.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-114aa12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"114aa12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s how Unio was born: the <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">100% secular &amp; online premarital counseling program<\/span><\/strong>.\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read more &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4019a43 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"4019a43\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e777218 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e777218\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u27a1\ufe0f Preparing for marriage with Unio :<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f450ef elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1f450ef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFor <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">lay the foundations for a solid marriage<\/span><\/strong> without spending hours on it, and without going to church.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb2e9ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cb2e9ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Our premarital counseling program:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; 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