{"id":288839,"date":"2023-06-03T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-06-02T23:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/blog\/how-to-express-your-needs-as-a-couple-examples\/"},"modified":"2024-05-29T16:34:20","modified_gmt":"2024-05-29T15:34:20","slug":"express-needs-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/express-needs-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"How to express your needs as a couple? [+ Examples]"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"288839\" class=\"elementor elementor-288839 elementor-84896\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0866d05 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0866d05\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b4e83d1\" data-id=\"b4e83d1\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-618ce42c elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"618ce42c\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3717603\" data-id=\"3717603\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-33b0e328 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"33b0e328\" data-element_type=\"widget\" id=\"titre_article\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Couple life: learning to express needs rather than reproaches<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cfc9b6f elementor-align-center elementor-icon-list--layout-traditional elementor-list-item-link-full_width elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-list\" data-id=\"cfc9b6f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-list.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul class=\"elementor-icon-list-items\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<li class=\"elementor-icon-list-item\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-icon-list-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"far fa-clock\"><\/i>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-icon-list-text\">6 min<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/li>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7c7b4d51 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7c7b4d51\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s not uncommon for a couple to experience <strong>communication<\/strong> problems. In fact, miscommunication is one of the <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/relationship-ennemies\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">10 enemies of the couple to avoid<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong>. Indeed, one of the hardest things to learn in a relationship is to <strong>express your needs rather than your reproaches<\/strong>. This concept can be hard to grasp, but it&#8217;s really important for a <strong>healthy, fulfilling relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3b5124e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3b5124e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We&#8217;re constantly <strong>communicating<\/strong> with our partner, and it can sometimes be easy to slip into complaining or blaming. This creates tension and can lead to arguments and resentments. To avoid this, we must learn to express our needs in a way that is not frustrating or accusatory.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d1ca32d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d1ca32d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\ud83d\udca1 <strong><br \/>\n  <a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/couple-communication\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Develop rich, fluid communication in your couple&#8217;s relationship<\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong> with our practical, easy-to-activate tips.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-74bfef1f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"74bfef1f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-2-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288441\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-2-jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-2-300x200.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-2-768x512.webp 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/2-2-50x33.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7990a32 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7990a32\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The script to express your needs<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3ed6f967 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3ed6f967\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Are you trying to work on your <strong>communication<\/strong> in your relationship, but finding it hard to speak clearly and compassionately to your partner? <strong>Non-violent communication (NVC)<\/strong> can help by providing a structured framework.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-24e88ef elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"24e88ef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>NVC<\/strong> was developed in the 1960s by Dr <strong>Marshall Rosenberg<\/strong>. It offers a clear, direct formula which, when practiced correctly, reduces points of tension and <strong>conflict<\/strong> in your <strong>communication<\/strong>, and therefore in your relationship.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bdf6975 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bdf6975\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<i>&#8220;Although we may feel that there&#8217;s nothing &#8216;violent&#8217; about the way we speak, it often happens that our words are a source of suffering for others or ourselves.&#8221;<\/i> &#8211; <strong>Marshall Rosenberg<\/strong>.  \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d77a561 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d77a561\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Non-violent communication<\/strong> can be broken down into four essential stages (OFNR): Observation (O), Feeling (F), Need (N) and Requests (R). We&#8217;ll explain how to think about these points and how to apply them in your relationship, starting today.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b1b1e65 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b1b1e65\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Observation\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-acf985c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"acf985c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>The first phase consists of describing the situation, offering a specific, objective description of the facts. Forget analysis, interpretation and inflammatory or <strong>accusatory<\/strong> language. Try to make this description as specific, impersonal and <strong>objective<\/strong> as possible. Without <strong>judgment<\/strong> and with <strong>empathy<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a524ace elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a524ace\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Example:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"list-style: none;\">\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <span style=\"text-decoration: line-through;\">You&#8217;re always on your phone.<\/span> I see you&#8217;re texting while I&#8217;m talking to you.<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 O <span style=\"text-decoration: line-through;\">ur room looks like a garbage dump.<\/span> There are lots of clothes on the floor of our room.<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <span style=\"text-decoration: line-through;\">Your expenses are completely out of control.<\/span> We have a \u20ac300 overdraft this month.<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <span style=\"text-decoration: line-through;\">I go crazy\/crazy without sex.<\/span> We haven&#8217;t had sex in two months.<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <span style=\"text-decoration: line-through;\">I&#8217;m always stuck at home and never get to see my friends anymore.<\/span> I haven&#8217;t been out with my friends since the baby came.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-331ad64 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"331ad64\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Feelings\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc62a33 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dc62a33\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThe second phase allows you to describe the <strong>emotions<\/strong> and <strong>feelings<\/strong> that the situation\/problem has triggered in you. Be careful not to vent or explode in a vague, accusatory way (<i>&#8220;I&#8217;m angry, stressed, upset and it&#8217;s all your fault!&#8221;<\/i>). It may feel good at the time, but it&#8217;s never productive.  \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d4ff76f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d4ff76f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tYou should avoid pointing to your partner as the cause of your <strong>feelings<\/strong>, even if it&#8217;s tempting, and even if his or her actions were really the catalyst. Reproach breeds <strong>defensiveness<\/strong>, not <strong>communication<\/strong>. Instead, try to express your <strong>feelings<\/strong> <strong>sympathetically<\/strong>, and describe your own <strong>feelings<\/strong> rather than those of the other person. You can do this by using <i>&#8220;I<\/i> &#8221; statements rather than <i>&#8220;you&#8221;<\/i> accusations, such as <i>&#8220;I feel&#8221;<\/i>.\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba5f15a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba5f15a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul style=\"list-style: none;\"><strong>Example:<\/strong>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>You never listen to me.<\/strike> I feel like I&#8217;m not being heard. I feel transparent.\n<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>You&#8217;re getting angry again.<\/strike> I see you&#8217;ve got your arms crossed and you&#8217;re gritting your teeth. I feel threatened.  \n<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>You never do the chores.<\/strike> I get frustrated watching dishes pile up in the sink. I feel helpless.  <\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8fb41f5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"8fb41f5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/3-2-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288442\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/3-2-jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/3-2-300x200.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/3-2-768x512.webp 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/3-2-50x33.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dcbdedf elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dcbdedf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Needs\n<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ed3c7c1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ed3c7c1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the next phase, you&#8217;ll define which of your <strong>needs<\/strong> has not been met, and has therefore caused you to feel these <strong>emotions<\/strong>? You can use phrases like <i>&#8220;Because I need to&#8230;&#8221;<\/i> or <i>&#8220;Because it&#8217;s important to me to.<\/i>..&#8221;.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bc9c875 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bc9c875\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Example:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"list-style: none;\">\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 I feel transparent.  <strong>because I need to talk about my day.<\/strong>\n<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 I feel threatened <strong>and need to feel safe.<\/strong><\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 I feel helpless <strong>because it&#8217;s important to me to live in a clean and tidy house<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-16b7af0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"16b7af0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Requests<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1a7ae8d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1a7ae8d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Finally, the last phase is to formulate a clear <strong>request<\/strong> about what your partner can do to <strong>fulfill your need<\/strong> and make you feel better. This request must be feasible, concrete, precise and formulated as positively as possible.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3ae7938 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3ae7938\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s important that the request concerns a <strong>change in behavior<\/strong>. You can&#8217;t expect your partner to change his or her <strong>values<\/strong>, <strong>desires<\/strong> or <strong>feelings<\/strong>. People feel personally threatened if you ask them to change intangible elements that are considered part of their very nature and beyond their conscious control.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-afb3f5b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"afb3f5b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>For example, what does it mean to ask someone to be <i>&#8220;more loving&#8221;<\/i>, <i>&#8220;less critical&#8221;<\/i> or <i>&#8220;more orderly&#8221;<\/i>? These types of requests are understood as <strong>attacks<\/strong>, and few real changes are likely to result. The request must be directed towards modifying a specific, observable behavior. So, when formulating your request, tackle only one situation and one or two behavioral changes at a time.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3718076 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3718076\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Example:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"list-style: none;\">\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>I want you to listen to me.<\/strike> Could you put your phone away for 10 minutes while I tell you something?<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>I want you to be neater.<\/strike> Could you put the dirty dishes away in the dishwasher?<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>I want you to be more affectionate.<\/strike> It would mean a lot to me if you kissed me when I got home from work and asked me how my day went.<\/li>\n \t<li>\ud83d\udc49 <strike>I want to make love more often.<\/strike> I know we&#8217;re both very busy, but I&#8217;d like us to commit to trying to have sex at least once a week, even if it means scheduling it. Is this something you might consider?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-42a9df9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"42a9df9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Example of a complete script<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-01d3b6f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"01d3b6f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Here is an example of a speech using the OSBD method of <strong>non-violent communication<\/strong>:  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b9b9c7a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b9b9c7a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><i>&#8220;I see you&#8217;re texting while I&#8217;m talking to you (O). I feel transparent (F), because I need to tell you about my day (N). Could you put your phone away for 10 minutes while I tell you something (R)?&#8221;<\/i>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1ffc5dc elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"1ffc5dc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-2-jpg.webp\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-288440\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-2-jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-2-300x200.webp 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-2-768x512.webp 768w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/1-2-50x33.webp 50w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7cab63c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7cab63c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Expressing needs rather than reproaches: other tips<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-195822a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"195822a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Keep your tone as calm and level as possible.<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-33280d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"33280d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Don&#8217;t let <strong>anger<\/strong> or<strong>annoyance<\/strong> creep into your voice. Using an (even slightly) angry, accusatory or condescending tone can turn things into an unproductive argument.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c4e757 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4c4e757\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Choose a time when your partner can give you his full attention.<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-806aa3d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"806aa3d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Don&#8217;t start a conversation while your partner is holding your crying baby or watching the final episode of his or her favorite TV show. Choose a time when he or she is <strong>relaxed<\/strong> and <strong>ready to listen<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-229a4f9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"229a4f9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Communication needs are not a one-way street.<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e15bd6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3e15bd6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I hope it&#8217;s obvious, but asking someone to meet your needs isn&#8217;t a one-sided process. Encourage your partner to make his or her needs known too, and do your best to <strong>listen<\/strong>, <strong>understand<\/strong> and try to <strong>meet<\/strong> those requests when you can.  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d01992f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d01992f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Your partner is not a telepath.<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-192cd71 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"192cd71\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your partner should know what you need without you having to say anything. That if he\/she really loved you and knew you, or if he\/she wasn&#8217;t so selfish, he\/she would do it naturally.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-883b195 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"883b195\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>But no one can read minds, not even the closest of couples. Something may seem obvious to you, but not even cross your partner&#8217;s mind. It&#8217;s not a lack of <strong>love<\/strong> or attention. It&#8217;s simply that your partner has a different brain from you! <strong>Accept your differences<\/strong>. It&#8217;s one of the greatest <strong>gestures of love<\/strong> and <strong>commitment<\/strong> there is.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a562f22 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a562f22\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Conclusion<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bd7990e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bd7990e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In short, following these steps can help you <strong>express your needs rather than your complaints<\/strong>. This approach will improve <strong>communication<\/strong> within your couple so that discussions are more serene and constructive! Especially since a good  <strong>communication<\/strong>  also involves little things like<strong>active listening<\/strong>  or body language (<i>poker face<\/i>arms crossed&#8230;). Don&#8217;t hesitate to take an interest in your partner&#8217;s day, or in the difficulties encountered during his or her working day, for example! All these little things will help your partner feel supported and appreciated!  <\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0c0b147 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0c0b147\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Communication is one of the 9 things you need to think about before saying yes.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-43ad529 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"43ad529\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>It&#8217;s a useful tool for tackling any subject, especially the less obvious ones. It&#8217;s particularly useful for talking about sexuality and nurturing desire within the couple.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6321a16a elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"6321a16a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"53\" src=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/2-300x53.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-288406\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/2-300x53.png 300w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/2-50x9.png 50w, https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/2.png 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" 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style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/category\/life-together\/\">\u2764\ufe0f Couple life<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/category\/premarital-counseling\/\">\ud83d\udc8d Premarital counseling<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1516a0 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"a1516a0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-30102fc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"30102fc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u27a1\ufe0f Who we are<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee2c12c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ee2c12c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWe are <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">Lysiane<\/span><\/strong> and <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">Romain <\/span><\/strong>newlyweds and co-founders of Unio premarital counseling.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c0814d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c0814d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div 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We decided to get married and set about preparing for our big day with great excitement.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-548e898 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"548e898\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt was great, but something was clearly missing. We wanted to <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">to give real meaning to our commitment <\/span><\/strong>and prepare ourselves properly.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-114aa12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"114aa12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s how Unio was born: the <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">100% secular &amp; online premarital counseling program<\/span><\/strong>.\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read more &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4019a43 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"4019a43\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e777218 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e777218\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u27a1\ufe0f Preparing for marriage with Unio :<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f450ef elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1f450ef\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tFor <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">lay the foundations for a solid marriage<\/span><\/strong> without spending hours on it, and without going to church.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb2e9ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"cb2e9ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>Our premarital counseling program:<\/strong>\n<ul style=\"margin-bottom: 0px;\">\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% secular<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% online<\/li>\n \t<li style=\"list-style-type: none; margin-left: 0px;\">\u2705 100% fun<\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9a06fd1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"9a06fd1\" 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data-id=\"ad7bdd7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<ul class=\"sidebar_article\" style=\"margin-bottom:0px;\">\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/category\/life-together\/\">\u2764\ufe0f Couple life<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/blog\/category\/premarital-counseling\/\">\ud83d\udc8d Premarital counseling<\/a><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1516a0 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"a1516a0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-30102fc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"30102fc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">\u27a1\ufe0f Who we are<\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee2c12c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ee2c12c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tWe are <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">Lysiane<\/span><\/strong> and <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">Romain <\/span><\/strong>newlyweds and co-founders of Unio premarital counseling.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c0814d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c0814d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tA few years ago, we were exactly where you are now. We decided to get married and set about preparing for our big day with great excitement.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-548e898 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"548e898\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIt was great, but something was clearly missing. We wanted to <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">to give real meaning to our commitment <\/span><\/strong>and prepare ourselves properly.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-114aa12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"114aa12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThat&#8217;s how Unio was born: the <strong><span style=\"color: #f19879;\">100% secular &amp; online premarital counseling program<\/span><\/strong>.\n<strong><a class=\"lien_html\" href=\"https:\/\/www.app.unio-preparation.com\/en\/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read more &gt;&gt;<\/a><\/strong>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4019a43 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"4019a43\" 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